Fish Pond

I had to look something up on Google maps today. I’m not sure if everyone is the same way, but I find Google maps incredibly interesting, and the interest lingers far after I’ve found what I needed and its actually useful. I can spend hours studying the satellite images, scanning terrain and reading the names of places and towns. Probably like most people, I like to inspect places I used to live, places I’ve visited or hope to see someday.

I’m going in to a television studio tomorrow morning to do something, I’m not sure exactly what. I’ll fill you in when I get back. In any case, after I’d looked up directions, I started scrolling over the map. I like to test my geography skills, and rather than entering an address, I’ll try to scroll out to the full world view and then pinpoint the location on my own. Today, however, I went back to where I lived in England, and revisited some of my old haunts.

Near the little town of Tamworth in the West Midlands, there’s a small village called Hopwas. Someone I once knew lived there, and as I scrolled over the countryside, I began reading the names of the roads and hills and other landmarks. The was Hanging Wood, and Rookery Lane, places that evoke certain images and ideas. Was someone hung in those woods at some point in history? Did someone on that lane keep a rookery? But then I came across a little pond. It was near a tiny forest on the side of a hill, and according to Google, it was called “Fish Pond”. That name really struck me as idyllic.

Not in the way you might think, but in the way that it embodied the character, the spirit of the English people. Their culture, their history, their little country lives. This tiny little pond that was probably some farmer’s back yard, where his kids went to go fishing years and years ago. And now it is “Fish Pond”. It’s things like this, little flourishes that are so easy to overlook, that get me thinking. This little name is so telling of the English culture, of Western culture, of my culture. Such a small detail that reveals, at least to me, so much about a people.

I wondered then, what about other cultures? Was there some place in Iran named “Fish Pond”? Did some man there stand up from his labours one afternoon to watch his children run happily down the hillside to go splashing into a little pond? I scrolled over to Iran and began to look, but all the place names were in Arabic. I was a little disappointed, but I felt that if rolling green hills could tell me about the spirit of the English, then perhaps the terrain of Iran could tell me something about the nature of its people. It’s mostly desert as you might expect, except in the far north, with tiny villages and farms dotting the countryside. I stared at one village in the north called “Kashan” for quite some time, just trying to understand. It seems like there’s so much we don’t see everyday.

It’s easy to see only what’s presented to us on a daily basis, the external, the processed and condensed versions of life and reality. I don’t know if there’s an objective reality, but I would like to think that we’re all  human, and we all basically want the same things. I think we all have hopes and things we want from life, no matter how grand or humble, and that even the bravest of us is still scared at the end of the day of not mattering to anyone and of being forgotten and alone. But I feel hopeful that maybe there’s more than one Fish Pond out there. Maybe, somewhere in a distant country I’ve never been to and don’t really understand, there is a man who just wants to watch his family grow up and find happiness. That doesn’t really seem so hard for me to believe. Yet it’s the last thing you’d think of when you scan the headlines or flip on the television. I don’t really know how to end this, it’s sort of a vague thought. I just think it’s important to remember that we all want happiness, and that it’s such a simple thing to find, we just occasionally get lost along the way. If only we could all have our own Fish Pond.

It isn’t hard to smile

I found this on another blog. It made me smile as I was reading it. I think there are so many things we do daily to sabotage ourselves. This little list is just that–a list. It will probably sound cliche, if you choose to read it that way. For me it represents some genuine, absolutely fantastic ways to improve your life, in such small and subtle ways that you won’t even know it at first. But when these tips become habit, and you take a step back to look at them all together, you might be surprised at the effect those little changes have made.

Really, when it comes down to it, happiness is what matters. And it’s so easy to achieve when you can just smile and say to yourself, “Such is life!” It’s the only one we’ve got, and it’s really pretty wonderful.

  1. Have a firm handshake.
  2. Look people in the eye.
  3. Sing in the shower.
  4. Own a great stereo system.
  5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
  6. Keep secrets.
  7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
  8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
  9. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
  10. Whistle.
  11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
  12. Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
  13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
  14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
  15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
  16. When playing games with ! children, let them win.
  17. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
  18. Be romantic.
  19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
  21. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for our convenience, not the caller’s.
  22. Be a good loser.
  23. Be a good winner.
  24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
  25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
  26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
  27. Keep it simple.
  28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
  29. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
  30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets
  31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the
  32. things you didn’t do more than the one’s you did.
  33. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
  34. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
  35. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
  36. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
  37. Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
  38. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
  39. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, ‘Someone who thinks you’re terrific.’
  40. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
  41. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
  42. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
  43. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
  44. Make someone’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
  45. Become someone’s hero.
  46. Marry only for love.
  47. Count your blessings.
  48. Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
  49. Wave at the children on a school bus.
  50. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
  51. Don’t expect life to be fair.